We just returned from our honeymoon in Wengen (The Swiss holiday resort at the foot of the imposing Eiger-Monch-Jungfrau mountain range in the heart of the Bernese Oberland),Switzerland. More about our trip later.
I was so happy to see my Parents and Sisters and the Twins parents, Mr & Mrs Welch. Both family’s went to a New Year’s Eve ball. We had lots of fun talking,dancing and celebrating with drink, the arrival of the New Year.

My little darlings playing with their dad’s camera. hehe
Little Bit and Joan had their babies the second of January 09. They are home now and mothers and babies are doing great.
We were so happy our parent’s could be here for our Handfasting ceremony. This was a private spiritual commitment. In some ways, a handfasting is much like a typical marriage. The couple, a presider, friends and family are present. We exchanged vows and rings. My Sisters and friends assisted in the ceremony.
The Private garden setting for our outdoor ceremony took place at the beautiful Wynbrick Mansion.
A circle was formed on the ground with crystals markers. It is large enough to handle the entire wedding party, and guests, with plenty of empty space. Candles mark the four cardinal directions. An altar is located near the center of the circle. It is large enough to support the marriage documents; a knife; chalice; a cloth, rope/ribbon; a small silver box and a trowel! A broomstick is laid beside the altar. Roses were spread inside the circle. We stood to the east of the circle. We wore circlets of flowers. Friends and family were gathered around the circle.
The presider rings a bell three times to indicate the start of the ritual and to demarcate divisions within the handfasting ceremony.
The Twins and I approaches the circle from the east — the direction of sunrise; this symbolizes growth in our relationship. We walk once around the circle and enter from the east.
The presider explains to the guests the significance of the ritual to be performed.
The circle is then cast. A Wiccan priest walks around the periphery of the circle four times, with elements representing earth, air, fire and water. He recite a statement at each of the four directions.
Answering a challenge from the presider, the Twins and I each declare our intent to join with the other so that we are one in the eyes of God, and of family and friends present.
The presider asks the traditional question whether anyone present is aware of any reason why the couple should not be handfasted. Nobody objects.
The twins and I recite a statement, saying that we come of our own free will “in perfect love and perfect trust” to seek the partnership of our future spouse. WE exchange rings. Each recites a prepared statement
The Twins and I spoke the following together:
You cannot possess me for I belong to myself. But while we both wish
it, I give you that which is mine to give. You cannot command me for I
am a free person. But I shall serve you in those ways you require and
the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand. I pledge to you
that yours will be the name I cry aloud in the night, and the eyes into
which I smile in the morning. I pledge to you the first bite from my
meat and the first drink from my cup. I pledge to you my living and my
dying, each equally in your care. I shall be a shield for your back,
and you for mine. I shall not slander you, nor you me. I shall honor
you above all others, and when we quarrel, we shall do so in private and
tell no strangers our grievances. This is my wedding vow to you. This
is the marriage of equals.
The Priest said:
These promises you make by the sun and the moon, by fire and water, by day and night, by land and sea. With these vows you swear, by God to be full partners, each to the other. If one drops the load, the other will pick it up. If one is a discredit to the other, his own honor will be forfeit, generation upon generation, until he repairs that which was damaged and finds that which was lost. Should you fail to keep the oath you pledge today, the elements themselves will reach out and destroy you.
The presider challenges us to drink from the same cup. Each drinks separately. Then each holds the cup so that the other may drink. This symbolizes the need for a balance between apartness and togetherness in our future life together.
The Twins and I face each other, joining both our left and right hands together. The presider placed a ribbon over our hands. Loosely tied; red in color, symbolizing life. This symbolizes that the handfasting is a commitment, but one that is not an onerous one. One year and a day after being handfasted, We may return to the presider and repeat our vows with the cord or cloth tightly knotted. This symbolizes the intent to have a permanent relationship. This ritual is the source of the expression “to tie the knot.”
We each reads a statement to the other, expressing our love and hopes for our future together. Since our hands are bound, the texts are held by my Sisters. The bonds are removed.
We uses a knife to cut off a lock of each other’s hair. This is put in a silver box. This symbolizes our future relationship, one as intimate as the mixing of our hairs.
The presider offers advise to us: “Be understanding and patient, each with the other. Be free in the giving of affection and warmth. Be sensuous with one another. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you unease.” The presider asks the assembled guests whether they will support the couple in their new relationship together. They answer “I do.” The presider then pronounces us to be handfasted as husband and wife.
We kiss each other — Our first gift to each other as a handfasted couple. WE then perform our first task together: we pick up the trowel from the altar, and bury the silver box at the center of the circle.
The presider, the Twins and I, and witnesses sign the marriage documents.
At the end of the ceremony, the twins and I join hands and jump over a broomstick. This symbolizes the effort required to make a committed relationship work.
The priest who originally cast the circle now banishes it.
The presider states the the handfasting is concluded: “The circle is open but unbroken. May the peace of the Old Ones go in our hearts. Blessed be.”
The bell is rung three times. The married couple then go clockwise around the circle, greeting friends and family.
Tears of happiness in the eyes of the Womenfolk….also some of us men.
A feast in the WynBrick Mansion followed, with full access to the Ballroom, Patio and grounds.
We said goodbyes to our parents and have been moving into the ‘old farm house’. Our two cows were delivered this weekend. At the last moment the twins decided one cow would be lonely, so grinning at the twins the farmer sold us a cow who often pals around with ‘our’ cow.hehe So the twins are happy, the cows are happy and I’m happy the twins are happy. We how have 20 egg laying hens and a rooster in the big chicken house. The rooster (Big Red…the twins named him) can be heard crowing at the break of dawn. This morning one sleepy twin ask ” how can one little rooster make so much noise.”hehe
The twins are all excited. We think tonight ‘Sunday night’ our neighbors will shivaree (chivaree,charivari,callathump) us. The twins have been getting a party ready for them….and trying not to look like we are ready for a party.hehe like they try to catch the newly married having sex…..so they will be all flushed and embarrassed.
The twins have been practicing being flushed and embarrassed.hehe So I better get to bed, turn out the lights and wait for the neighbors to come yelling, setting off firecrackers and banging pans.